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Originally Posted by pjhaggerty  it's interesting how many people equate steve and erin's marriage ending to steve and enrin's relationship to ending, and then jump into long tirades about the possible consequences of something they don't even know about.
even though divorce usually = an end to the relationship, that is obviously not the case here as steve pointed out in his article.
seems to me like steve and erin are just changing the paperwork and separating, just like they would if, say, steve moved somewhere else and decided to get the marriage recognized in that place instead.
if steve was a mexican farm migrant who moved to america and was 'officially' not married in this country, would that mean he loved his wife any less or had a lesser relationship with her? would people jump on him for leaving his kids to pursue economic growth? or would people just view it as a choice? |
I guess it wouldn't really matter what other people thought. Ultimately it would be up to them to do what they decide is right for them and their family (truth + courage!). Putting forward a critical perspective as an outsider is just that - from the outside. It's hopefully coming from a place of commitment to growth on a forum like this, but it's always going to be subjective and based on a different set of life experiences and on limited knowledge. Given the different set of experiences drawn on, it might be a helpful perspective, or just unfortunately totally off base. Any ideas put forward can be taken or left, ignored or engaged with. It needn't have the slightest more influence over anyone than they choose to give it. Moreover a blog like this is read all over the world. People come from different cultures with different values, as well as different life stages and experiences. Why choose, or not, to be concerned if a perspective doesn't seem valid from one's frame of perspective and one knows why that is so? If one is sure as to what one's doing, it can only help confirm that certainty, not damage it. If a comment seems malicious or is just totally not welcome, it can be deleted from the site, and if not, it will prob sink like a stone anyway, if it's based on false assumptions.
I am above all totally sure that anyone who is courageous, loving and committed to living honestly and openly will happily continue on that path, whether others put forward critical or falsely founded perspectives on the aspects of their choices that they present in a public forum, or not.