There's lots of good advice here, especially the part about abstaining from sex with her fr now. I know all about that break up sex and it's the pits.
Anyway, this is ultimately going to be up to her. it does sound like your getting mixed signals, but that's really not uncommon. Women can be very fickle.
I really don't know what to say other than what's been said. You're in the 'wait and see" stage; which totally sucks emotionally, but it's something you'll still have to live with. Just try and be strong. Be honest with her about everything, but strong and not needy and/or desperate. Neediness is almost guaranteed to push her away.
I really don't see how not being there for one day could lead to any serious breech of trust though. Cheating; yes. A no show?? I'm not sure. That's happened to everyone and sometimes there are valid reasons; even though you say you messed up that day. maybe you did, but I stiull don't see hwo that could ruin trust completely.
But, I don't know either of you so I sure can't judge her emotions and trust issues.
Hang Tough. Hope for the best; but you may have to prepare for the worst at some point; but not quite yet. It ain't over until it's over.
If a woman wants to be with you, she'll be with you, so give it some time. Like the other poster said, you may have to allow her to come back, but she'll only do that if she truly wants to, and that's something that you may not be able to change.
I feel for you. I've been there; and it's probably the worst type of emotional experience possible IMO.
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