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I have trouble with my friendships and social situations because I have ADD and hav trouble defining goals. Whenever I get into social situations, I often become a quiet vegetable. Becoming involved and able to pay attention takes a lot of startup energy (if that makes sense).

The problem is that it means I'm always looking to meet new people, but then get bored. It means I don't value the people that I'm with. It also means that I get ignored fairly often.

Most of my friends consist of people who wanted to date me who I told I wasnt' interested. But then we end up being as close as many couples would since we do a lot together. I always make clear that I'm not looking for a relationship, but I feel I should make this clearer when spending time with them. Currently, I have one such really good friend who I am afraid am becoming dependent on and giving the wrong message.

Is there anything I can do to better engage socially? Usually I have to plan converations etc for social events.

Is there a better way to handle the friends that wanted to be my boyfriend?

Thanks