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Originally Posted by LoveBlug  gingembre, if you are referring to the statement I quoted here from a previous post, then I would have to clarify that this is just my personal opinion, and I am fallible. There are no claims of omniscience here, but I stand by it nonetheless.
I'm glad to hear polyamory has brought you and your hubby closer, and I'd be glad if, in the end, your relationship proves me wrong.
All the best. |
Yours and Steve's (I forget his exact wording). And of course everyone will have different experiences; I just wanted to put out there a different perspective. Marriage is only as limiting as you allow it to be - like any other word, really. Within my own relationship, the term has many meanings and purposes, including but not limited to emotional status (best friend/soul mate), parenting together, living arrangements and financial considerations, to name but a few. Could we have all those with a legal document? Sure, but we don't find it limiting to HAVE that legal document, and in many ways (health coverage, hospital visitation rights, inheritance, again naming only a few) having that legal status is very freeing. Within polyamory, it has never been a limiting thing (being parents is much more limiting, really, since of course time is a scarce commodity). While we could be said to "check in with each other", it would be more accurate to say that we love sharing and discussing things together. However, we have from the beginning had very separate social lives, so perhaps we had it easier from the get-go as no one defines us as a "Them". And we have never put rules on our interactions with other people and relationships other than those regarding safety (condoms!) and procreating (no thank you!). Being poly has been really wonderful for us, not least of which because having someone else to rant to when you're upset at your spouse who so very-gently points out how you *just might* have your foot up your ass and your spouse a good point can be most helpful LOL (more sex on all fronts doesn't hurt either...)
Anyway, thus ends my not-so-brief alternative perspective on polyamory and marriage.
