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Originally Posted by MidasGirl  I used to be a 'nice gal'. That's how I know they exist.  I've known many women too who would attest to having been nice gals, especially in teen to mid-20's. It's the 'nice gal' zone. Yikes. |
I think people like nice-ness. It's just that guys and gals need to be nice to THEMSELVES as well as others..
Most nice guys fail in relationships, because they put women on a pedestal, that basically do nothing to deserve to be there. Maybe nice gals do the same thing, I dunno..
At high school, I was an *******, and then after high school I decided I needed to be nicer to people, but you only get 24 hours a day, and you've got to work on your own stuff and yourself, so you can't spend all your time being everyone elses doormat, you've got to be nice to yourself as well.
and plus from personal experience, you don't really get to know people if you put them on a pedestal and be overly-nice to them...
I don't think people really like arrogant bastards who only care about themselves, it's a 2 way street, I think, give and take..
But everyone makes mistakes along the way, that's how you learn..