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Originally Posted by stripysweatergirl  I think I'm going to buck the trend a bit here. I don't think you have to leave.
As long as the relationship is good, this can be another opportunity to learn social skills. You can learn to make friends without relying on flirting your way to them. You can make friends while still being attentive and loving to your girlfriend. Relationships don't have to be a cage. You're obviously already competent at meeting new people. Are you up for a new challenge?
Also, you're in trouble of making yourself a bit of a playboy here. If that's what you want, fine, but if you don't see yourself flirting your way around the nursing home when you're 80-odd, then why not try it?
This is the only thing that puts me off- I can't stand jealousy. But maybe she's only jealous because, as you admit, you might be flirting with other people. I wouldn't like it if my partner did that in front of me, either.
You do make it sound as if the relationship is worth at least trying to save, and it can definitely be another opportunity for personal growth and challenging yourself. However, you do need to know when stop trying to make it work- if nothing's improving then you really are caged. |
I tend to agree.
If you have a good thing right in front of you, why throw it away??
So you want to be a PUA. You've already proven to yourself that you can, so how long do you continue proving to yourself what you already know to be true?? For how long and to what end?? A series of sexual encounters may be exciting for a while (and it absolutely is; no doubt; at least; until it isn't; and that day will come; believe me), but where does it end; and with whom?? What or who are you actually looking for?? If you're looking for sex as a means to happiness, you'll never be fully happy; no matter what supposed PUA's are telling you, because healthy human relationships are about way more than sex.
Is it endless sex with many women that you really want, or someone who loves you and you love as well?? Only you can answer those questions, but if it hurts to leave, then why not give it some more time and see if the changes you're gf is willing to make work out before running out on her?? Why rush it and possibly throw away what may be someone who is great for you.
I went through a "male slut" stage when I was younger, and I was never satisfied; not really. I met lots of girls, had lots of sex, etc., but I wasn't really happy. I wasn't truly happy until I met someone I loved unconditionally; and it was mutual.
Some of the lonliest people on this earth are playboys and women who sleep around. Guys get a reputation of being jerks and women get reputations as sluts, and then no one wants them anyway, so what's the point??
Most people are usually ultimately looking to be loved for who they are, whether they realize it or not, so if you have it, I would say hang onto it; at least long enough to know whether or not it's right. That's the whole purpose of dating; to find a suitable partner; not to get your conquest numbers ever higher. At least, that's what the purpose has always been for me and almost everyone I have ever known in my entire life.
Your GF is willing to communicate and accommodate you, so you're sitting in a very good position IMO. I would make darn sure about leaving her if I were in your shoes.