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rei · 10-31-2009, 10:06 PM

as The Cloud said, who you were then is not who you are now.
this person you feel you harmed may not even care, or it may not have the depth of impact you are concerned it had.

also, we are all connected and all part of a single collective. the separation is an illusion. so what you did, you didn't do 'to someone else' - you did it to self. i don't know if that helps or not, but may invite you to look at this differently.

forgive yourself. the guilt is coming from you, not him. and there is a chance your actions served to resolve some karma between the two of you - perhaps that person 'victimized' you in another expression, and the two of you decided to meet up in this lifetime to balance the ledger. so in a way it could be beneficial that it happened.

this experience and the consequences don't have to burden you. i suppose it can be a sign that you are aligned with your conscience if you feel you were 'wrong' in the action. but there are many ways to view a situation, it doesn't have to be that you were acting in a wrong way. it can be the karma balancing i mentioned. and technically, even if you were both young, he allowed you to do whatever you did. he may have attracted it to him to learn some specific lessons. you may have triggered a growth experience for him, and at some level he may even be grateful for that.

if you want to ask for forgiveness (even though you obviously need forgiveness from yourself more than from him) without direct communication, you could do like a meditation to connect with the higher self of this person. once you are connected with the higher self you can explain that you're wanting forgiveness and ask if it is granted. most likely it will be granted, or you will get a message that there is nothing to forgive because the person asked to have the experience before he incarnated. and you can say thank you for the answer you get (regardless of the content of the answer, thanks is welcome since the higher self has a choice about connecting with you) and then break the connection. PM me if you want me to go into more detail about this method since it may technically stray a bit from the topic of this thread.

10-31-2009, 10:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
rei Family Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere Posts: 9,713	as The Cloud said, who you were then is not who you are now. this person you feel you harmed may not even care, or it may not have the depth of impact you are concerned it had. also, we are all connected and all part of a single collective. the separation is an illusion. so what you did, you didn't do 'to someone else' - you did it to self. i don't know if that helps or not, but may invite you to look at this differently. forgive yourself. the guilt is coming from you, not him. and there is a chance your actions served to resolve some karma between the two of you - perhaps that person 'victimized' you in another expression, and the two of you decided to meet up in this lifetime to balance the ledger. so in a way it could be beneficial that it happened. this experience and the consequences don't have to burden you. i suppose it can be a sign that you are aligned with your conscience if you feel you were 'wrong' in the action. but there are many ways to view a situation, it doesn't have to be that you were acting in a wrong way. it can be the karma balancing i mentioned. and technically, even if you were both young, he allowed you to do whatever you did. he may have attracted it to him to learn some specific lessons. you may have triggered a growth experience for him, and at some level he may even be grateful for that. if you want to ask for forgiveness (even though you obviously need forgiveness from yourself more than from him) without direct communication, you could do like a meditation to connect with the higher self of this person. once you are connected with the higher self you can explain that you're wanting forgiveness and ask if it is granted. most likely it will be granted, or you will get a message that there is nothing to forgive because the person asked to have the experience before he incarnated. and you can say thank you for the answer you get (regardless of the content of the answer, thanks is welcome since the higher self has a choice about connecting with you) and then break the connection. PM me if you want me to go into more detail about this method since it may technically stray a bit from the topic of this thread.