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If she's willing to talk to you, you may have a shot at least; but beware of false hope. That can be a real bummer.

First off, if you want her back, DON'T BEG. That's a turn off off for most women; trust me. I tried it when I was much younger and she lost even more respect for me.

Believe it or not, you have to break most of your contact with her initially. She has think that you're not desperate and that you don't "need her". That's very hard; but also effective. It shows strength and woman are attracted to that.

Remake yourself in any way that would make you more attractive to her and casually let her know you're making changes. get some new clothes. make yourself a bit more attractive and let her know that you're taking really good care of yourself in spite of being split up. That may arouse her curiosity as to what's going on with you. If you're doing the same old things as before she'll think you're exactly the same guy she broke up with. You don't want to be that guy. You want to be the guy she's attracted to.

I would go online and do some searches on how to get her back. There's lots of good advice available and much of it is the exact opposite of what you may think you need to do.

Good luck.

Oh, and if it's over and you;re worried about just being alone, that will pass in time. It can be really bad emotionally, but it does pass and there IS a tomorrow. Believe me. I've been through it, and almost everyone I know has been through it and come out fine, and in many cases; even better than before.

I'm no relationship expert, so seriously look up all of the advice you can. If you know anyone who has won back a lost love, talk to them; get some advice on how they went about it, but no matter what, DO NOT appear weak and needy. That's the last thing you want to do because it just shows desperation on your part, and women don't like that.

You can express your love for her without appearing weak too. You just need to approach it in the right ways.

Good luck my friend. Emotionally, it doesn't get much worse if you truly love this girl. I wish you the best. If it turns out that she really doesn't want you, don't take it personally. There could be other reasons that you're completely unaware of and that you may never get answers for. Sometimes, you may not even want to know the answers anyway. In time, you'll recover from this, grow, become WAY stronger emotionally; meet someone else and love again. There are billions of girls in this world and if you fell in love with one you can also fall in love with another.

I've been asked if I ever found my "soul mate". The answer is "yes", quite a few of them; and I loved them all. There are many potential partners and there isn't just one girl for every guy or vice versa in this world. There are a multitude of potential partners out there for you and everyone else.

I know that you may feel like your life is over, she's the only one for you, etc. I would tell you to just stop thinking that way but I know it isn't that simple. What you';re going through is a process and it takes time. It's actually a grieving process, but again, if she's still willing to keep in contact, that's not a bad sign. I just hope she isn't giving you any false hope, because that's a terrible thing to experience for anyone.

Go online, get advice. Do it now. Take a deep breath and at least try and relax. Don't forget to eat and take care of yourself; even if you have to force it. Any physical symptoms you're having will also pass in time. Again, it's a process and you have to feel those feelings in order to get through them and deal with them. Don't try and bury them with alcohol or drugs because you're only postponing the inevitable; facing them. One drink won't kill you, but drowning your sorrows won't work. I've tried that too when I was younger and I only felt worse and prolonged the process by not dealing with it initially as I should have. i know better now, but we live and learn

Come back here and report on how you're doing. You'll get support and encouragement if you need it. It won't solve all your problems right away but it's always good to know that you're not alone, that people do care and that you're not the only one who's ever gone through this.

BTW, you WILL LIVE. I promise, so don't do anything crazy.