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foxweasel · 10-31-2009, 08:42 PM

Hey can someone please help, i recently broke up with gf of a year and a half. the relationship ultimately ended because i was selfish and complacent. I messed up big time. I know i am a difficult person with baggage. I was stabbed at a young age, my parents havent loved each other since i was young but they still live in the same house, my father was violent when i was a kid. I was never too confident at meeting girls. so at 24 i rushed into a relationship with an american girl and i got married. we were married 3 years in total though we were only together physically about 12 months due to immigration stuff. i moved to the US and tried to make it work but it didnt. i came home and soon after met my GF, i love her so much everything was so good she was everything i wanted, she is beautiful smart and funny as hell. Then she had to go away for a year to france to study and that was hard. it was different to before when i was married. This was true love and i was so scared of loosing it. We made it through the year and she came home. I really dropped the ball then, i was stressed, i was working alot while also trying to work at my real career goal and i just felt pressured. I distanced myself a little and i was careless and i hurt her. As a result she broke up with me. I told her i am sorry and to this day i am trying to make it right. She says she cant trust me not to hurt her again. I wouldnt tho. This was my first proper relationship, i was learning too, what to do, what not to do. I was also changing as a person in terms of things i had learned from my marriage and my parents assways relationship. We have seen each other, been intimate and its always passionate but afterwards she still says no. Then we met two weeks ago and she said we could try and work things out. An hour after she went home she txt'd me and said no it cant work. I was heartbroken all over again. it was like hope had been held in front of my face and then snatched away. I am heart broken. i know i let her down but i would give anything just to make it up to her. i am so lost i dont know what to do. can someone please give me some advice.

10-31-2009, 08:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
foxweasel Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	please help! Hey can someone please help, i recently broke up with gf of a year and a half. the relationship ultimately ended because i was selfish and complacent. I messed up big time. I know i am a difficult person with baggage. I was stabbed at a young age, my parents havent loved each other since i was young but they still live in the same house, my father was violent when i was a kid. I was never too confident at meeting girls. so at 24 i rushed into a relationship with an american girl and i got married. we were married 3 years in total though we were only together physically about 12 months due to immigration stuff. i moved to the US and tried to make it work but it didnt. i came home and soon after met my GF, i love her so much everything was so good she was everything i wanted, she is beautiful smart and funny as hell. Then she had to go away for a year to france to study and that was hard. it was different to before when i was married. This was true love and i was so scared of loosing it. We made it through the year and she came home. I really dropped the ball then, i was stressed, i was working alot while also trying to work at my real career goal and i just felt pressured. I distanced myself a little and i was careless and i hurt her. As a result she broke up with me. I told her i am sorry and to this day i am trying to make it right. She says she cant trust me not to hurt her again. I wouldnt tho. This was my first proper relationship, i was learning too, what to do, what not to do. I was also changing as a person in terms of things i had learned from my marriage and my parents assways relationship. We have seen each other, been intimate and its always passionate but afterwards she still says no. Then we met two weeks ago and she said we could try and work things out. An hour after she went home she txt'd me and said no it cant work. I was heartbroken all over again. it was like hope had been held in front of my face and then snatched away. I am heart broken. i know i let her down but i would give anything just to make it up to her. i am so lost i dont know what to do. can someone please give me some advice. Last edited by foxweasel; 11-01-2009 at 01:51 AM.