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tk421 · 10-31-2009, 10:33 AM

Thanks for the reply.
Now things are worse, she has told me she loves me, I can't do that, I don't think of her like that and now I feel like she'll feel like i'm abondoning her (or on her side) if I become firm with her, though I have already told her no it won't happen but I havent been harsh with her yet though that may be the only way to get her to see sense.
Either way I feel like I'm going to be right b@$?@#d, none of us have close relatives which I think magnifies the situation.
She has threatened me that if I break contact she will send him back home, I feel sick of always shouldering responsibility.

Don't get me wrong he has made a few errors of judgment early in their relationship, he stole money from her but he now regrets that and came clean with her but she already has trust issues.

I know these are their problems but she always expects me to "fix" things and without sounding selfish I have been having probelms with funding for my college course and need to work on my own projects and am neglecting these in favour of helping them out, I just don't have the strength right now.

10-31-2009, 10:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
tk421 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Posts: 3	Thanks for the reply. Now things are worse, she has told me she loves me, I can't do that, I don't think of her like that and now I feel like she'll feel like i'm abondoning her (or on her side) if I become firm with her, though I have already told her no it won't happen but I havent been harsh with her yet though that may be the only way to get her to see sense. Either way I feel like I'm going to be right b@$?@#d, none of us have close relatives which I think magnifies the situation. She has threatened me that if I break contact she will send him back home, I feel sick of always shouldering responsibility. Don't get me wrong he has made a few errors of judgment early in their relationship, he stole money from her but he now regrets that and came clean with her but she already has trust issues. I know these are their problems but she always expects me to "fix" things and without sounding selfish I have been having probelms with funding for my college course and need to work on my own projects and am neglecting these in favour of helping them out, I just don't have the strength right now.