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Originally Posted by seeker5  There is a difference between lying, and volunteering information. You can refuse to lie, without volunteering any info you prefer not to discuss. Living a life of absolute not saying any lie, does not mean going around and blabbing your whole life and all your beliefs to anyone around you.
It is true that there are consequences to refusing to lie. You may get kicked out of a community, you may get people upset at you, you may lose a job, you may have your parents upset at you if you're a teenager. I still say the consequences of those are better than the consequences of not being true to yourself. If the cost of being accepted by some people means you have to make it a habit of lying to them, I say the cost is way too high and it's time to remove those people from your life.
Not to mention, those people wouldn't really be accepting you for who you truly are, and the whole time you're lying to them about who you truly are, you're telling yourself you're not good enough. That is quite damaging to the self. |
There are parts of my life I do not wish to recount. If there I am questioned about that time of my life I sometimes say it is something I do not wish to discuss at this time. This answer usually works for me and when pressed I repeat the statement with kindness in my heart and if necessary walk away.