What Johnny Soporno is describing is someone who is paralyzed by fear of public opinion. This isn't being a "nice guy" so much as a doormat.
The opposite extreme is being a brute, who treats people horribly. That's no good either.
If you're worried that you're becoming a Nice Guy, then try saying "no." Not to everything, just to things you're not sure if you want to do. Even if it's helping somebody move or something "nice."
You might also try not doing anything for anyone else for a month. Be totally selfish. Yeah, you'll lose friends, but probably not good friends.
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