Your post was interesting to me. I'm a divorced father of one, and I'm 40. I've dated several 20-somethings since my divorce 16 months ago.
One thing I've learned is that every person is different and brings a different set of benefits/challenges to the relationship dynamic. I made a conscious decision at the start that I would have an abundance mentality when dating this time.
In practical terms, that means I decided what qualities I wanted in a woman, and I won't accept anything less. The two main personality traits I'm looking for are: Down-to-earthness and non-neediness.
After the initial "good behavior" phase of the relationship, it's been interesting to me to see the true colors come out. This is stuff I always missed or ignored when I was in my 20s. Someone told me that there are little 'flags' or indicators at the start of any relationship that'll tell you what to expect down the road.
I've decided what's acceptable for my son and me, and what's not. When I see precursors to unacceptable behavior, I end it and move on.
There are guys out there for you who aren't governed by fear and anger. My advice would be to focus on finding what you want in a guy. Best of luck
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