It would depend on how long ago the divorce was and how raw the emotions were. I wouldn't rule out someone who was divorced if was dating, just as I wouldn't rule out someone who had previously had a long-term live in relationship.
I would want to know what they had learned about themselves from their marriage, what their relationship with their ex was. How much unresolved emotion was there.
I think it is a very individual thing and would depend on the people involved. If after 2 years someone was still very bitter towards their ex, that would be a big red-flag for me. If after 2 years it was all their ex's 'fault', again I would be wary. There's two sides to everything. If they talked about their ex a lot and in particular compared me to her then I would be out. That's even if they said things like 'You're so much better than my ex, she would do X and you do Y'. (Been there, done that, it doesn't work!)
I would take it very slowly, particularly where children were involved. I wouldn't want to meet the children for several months after beginning dating incase it didn't work out.
I would be vary wary about being the 'rebound' relationship too.
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