Hi everyone,
Though I have only just joined, this site and forums have been invaluble over the past few years in my growth as a human being, so before I start, Thankyou.
Well, to start this off, I have always been able to solve my own problems through observation of others and being able to admit when I am wrong, not sure that it means anything but these are the words my brain is coming up with so please bare with me.
This is the first time I have felt at a loss and really could do with some advice...to shorten a long and complicated story it involves two of my friends and myself.
They married recently after knowing each other for just over a year, she is my ex and he has become almost like a brother to me, strange I know but oh well.
Anyhow things have been going bad for them for a while now and he has lost 2 jobs in the space of 4 months, now it's not like he is a bad person, its just that he has had a very difficult childhood and unconfident but is also very intelligent and coming from a small town to a big city must be a cultural working shock especially one like London.
Now she wants to leave him or at least take a break and I have been helping him find a job...I feel as if I'm missing my initial point here but she is a wonderful person but can be very critical and he is intelligent but unconfident and nervous at times of confrontation.
I have tried to be as constructive as possible between them both helping him with his CV's, cover letters and possible jobs in the hope that he will pick up a few good (ish I hope) habits but also got him to do some and to question what he did rather than directly point out or criticise and also point out when she is a little too aggresive in her opinions.
Another friend of mine told me I was a rescuer and I did some research on this and I fear that I am part of their problem, have I been too supportive of them in their times of need (housing, money, advice etc) and have I become too involved?
I really want him to do well and if he has to go back home I fear he won't have support there also I want her to be at peace and not worrying over things that havent happened yet.
There is more to this but I'm sure I've rambled on too much already.
Thankyou