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chrisrushton · 10-29-2009, 03:14 PM

couldn't agree more, especially about the overcommitting and being unable to follow up on your obligations. i was brought up like that and it took me 20 years to realize what i was doing wasn't what i knew i should be doing and even more time to undo the damage.

it was totally worth it though. i respect myself completely now. i never realized that what i was doing wasn't self-respecting but as soon as i figured it out, my whole life changed. again, totally worth it.

also, johnny, a few of my friends went to your seminar in leeds a few months ago. i wish i'd been able to go, it sounded insightful. i've got a picture of a sheet with the 6 A's on my phone to remind me wherever i am, how i should interact with people (just incase i forget or need a guide for a difficult situation)

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chrisrushton Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 303	former nice guy... couldn't agree more, especially about the overcommitting and being unable to follow up on your obligations. i was brought up like that and it took me 20 years to realize what i was doing wasn't what i knew i should be doing and even more time to undo the damage. it was totally worth it though. i respect myself completely now. i never realized that what i was doing wasn't self-respecting but as soon as i figured it out, my whole life changed. again, totally worth it. also, johnny, a few of my friends went to your seminar in leeds a few months ago. i wish i'd been able to go, it sounded insightful. i've got a picture of a sheet with the 6 A's on my phone to remind me wherever i am, how i should interact with people (just incase i forget or need a guide for a difficult situation)