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Originally Posted by James81 
Why do you stay in a relationship when you know it's dysfuntional?
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Denial for the longest time. Everyone keeps telling me what a great guy, husband, father etc etc he is - so I believed it. And it's true I guess. He is a really, really nice guy.
So I'll be the bad guy when I leave.
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Originally Posted by James81 You realize that based on statistics and previous experiences alone, that there is a very high chance you'll end up cheating on him and hurting him,
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Oh yes - pretty much 100% chance of that happening I'd say.
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Originally Posted by James81 Just throwing that out there. Don't sit around waiting for him to become the man you want. Find the man you want and be with him (i.e. break up first, THEN find the man you want and be with him  ). |
I'm working on it. But he is really hanging on for dear life - so I have to take it slow. I actually feel sorry for him. He doesn't know how to make himself happy so he wants to hang on to something comfortable even if it clearly isn't working. But dragging it out is gonna make it worse - I know.