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minervana · 10-28-2009, 12:05 AM

This caught me by surprise, but at the same time I think it's a good thing. If Steve and Erin feel that it's time for their marriage to end, then they should end it. Why not? If it will make them happier people, and better parents, I don't see why not.

It's interesting how many people in this thread project their own bad situation growing up onto Steve and Erin's. That's human nature, I guess. But you have to remember that your situation is different from theirs.

I don't know if getting a divorce will permanently scar kids in every situation. A lot of the time, the trauma is not so much the change in living situation (although that's part of it) but the bitterness, pettiness and animosity between the parents. One of the biggest traumas of divorce is open parental conflict. A contentious marriage or a contentious divorce are going to have their strain on the children.

It's nice to know that a good marriage can come to an end. There's this idea that happy marriages should go on and on and on and on, that longevity is the only true test of a relationship. That's not the case. I remember seeing something in the newspaper of "Happy Couple Celebrates 75th Wedding Anniversary." Both of them were scowling at the camera and had their arms crossed over their chests. What good does that do?

10-28-2009, 12:05 AM	#225 (permalink)
minervana Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 12	This caught me by surprise, but at the same time I think it's a good thing. If Steve and Erin feel that it's time for their marriage to end, then they should end it. Why not? If it will make them happier people, and better parents, I don't see why not. It's interesting how many people in this thread project their own bad situation growing up onto Steve and Erin's. That's human nature, I guess. But you have to remember that your situation is different from theirs. I don't know if getting a divorce will permanently scar kids in every situation. A lot of the time, the trauma is not so much the change in living situation (although that's part of it) but the bitterness, pettiness and animosity between the parents. One of the biggest traumas of divorce is open parental conflict. A contentious marriage or a contentious divorce are going to have their strain on the children. It's nice to know that a good marriage can come to an end. There's this idea that happy marriages should go on and on and on and on, that longevity is the only true test of a relationship. That's not the case. I remember seeing something in the newspaper of "Happy Couple Celebrates 75th Wedding Anniversary." Both of them were scowling at the camera and had their arms crossed over their chests. What good does that do? Last edited by minervana; 10-28-2009 at 01:37 AM.