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Originally Posted by James81  I'm pulling this in from Steve's blog thread:
IMO, parenting has become a lot easier now that they aren't around everyday. When they were around everyday, I took them and my time with them for granted. Now that I don't see them everyday, I value the time we have together more and it's better. And I feel like I've improved as a father because of the divorce.
It's 6 of one, half a dozen of the other. One the one hand, not seeing them everyday creates the potential for you to really appreciate the time you DO have with them. On the other, it's hard on you both emotionally to keep drifting in and out of their lives.
One the one hand, in a marriage, you get to see them everyday and you don't have that emotional turmoil, but you also take your time with them for granted and the quality of your time may be degraded because of that. |
It's entirely possibly that your experience is the norm for divorced parents and I've just had the misfortune of meeting the few for whom divorce did not improve their parenting skills. For the sake of all the children out there whose parents have divorced, I do hope that those I've seen are truly the exception.