I see that people really got hung up on this one thread. I never thought anything of is rather than a conscious decision, which it is. I continue to think of Steve and Erin in exactly the same way. Yea, of course I asked myself, does this mean that Polyamory doesn't really work, but that's mainly because I expected everyone else will now say that, but the truth is, the reason why you would chose polyamory is that you don't want to limit yourself, and that is exactly the reason why you may chose to get a divorce later on. No contradiction there. There are people who stay in a monogamous relationship and then split up, or even worse, cheat on one another.
As the taoists say, you never know if a decision is good or bad. One day it may look good, and the next something bad may happen as a result of what happened today, or the other way around. Good or bad are such relative concepts, and feelings are so changeable. What matters is what is beyond good or bad, beyond right and wrong, and that is who we are as souls and even deeper than that, and if you understand that, than a break-up is just a passing (even if sometimes very serious) episode of this game of life, this "Play of Lilla".
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