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Originally Posted by James81 
I've structured my new life around my kids and I've found that it works pretty well so far.
You shouldn't make it sound like that the non-custodial parents just teeters our of their kids life because of the divorce. The non-custodial parent makes a choice...and that choice involves either remaining in their kids' lives or choosing to phase themselves out.
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That's the absolute key...you've structured your new life around your kids and you've made a choice. However, it is easier for the non-custodial parent to have the "out of sight, out of mind" attitude. To be honest, it's harder to be a vital, present, active divorced parent than it is to be one in a marriage. Certainly not impossible and my ex and I did co-parent, but we made the choice. The days the kids were with me were non-negiotiable and vice versus. The kids came first. Period.