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Originally Posted by improver  another problem of mine is that I tend to be doubtful when someone gives me a complement or says something good about me.. like "You look good," I tend to think they just want to make me feel good. I don't know, I wish I could stop thinking like that. |
i don't think you really doubt the other's intentions, or i don't think that's all of it. i think, deep down, you have some self-worth stuff so it's easier for you to think 'they don't mean it' or 'they just said that because they want something' than it is for you to think, believe you DESERVE a genuine compliment.
i used to have major issues with my own self-esteem, and i would wiggle out of a compliment when i could because i didn't think i deserved that praise. the idea of thinking it could be true would sometimes make me cry. but i slowly began to simply say 'thank you' and work with the assumption that they wouldn't bother saying it if they didn't think it was true. if they were just trying to get something from me i'd figure it out later, but in the meantime why not enjoy the positivity.
so what if others want to make you feel good? that doesn't mean they don't believe the positive things they say.