what about the nice girls/women...that are too nice and end up being doormats
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male or female, we end up there somehow....and it is not always healthy, especially if one is truly being taken advantage of...then one has to examine the situation and get out if they can.
people who are married or have children not always so easy.
some are just natrually people pleasers and this can carry over to relationships.
some men and women get themselves into this situation in long term pairing or marriages simply BECAUSE they may have exhibited this complacent, nice behavior to start and the other person was attracted to it and wants it to continue...
i found in past unhealthy relationships, part of what as liked about me was my doormat attitude, eagerness to please, be giving nurturing and nice....and then i was criticized for not being more forceful, not standing up for myself, etc...but as soon as spoke up about what MY needs were it was met very negatively.
i have heard friends and coworkers (women) speak to there partners in the most degrading way...i would never dream of doing that. i have often commented that the way some women act and look....why do the guys put up with it.
i have some theories....goes back to the relationship with mummy and they are dysfunctional and whipped, they will protect, adore the mother of their children no matter what...kind of sacred kind of thing....or the sex is great
