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Originally Posted by Michelle  I agree with you, Holistic Star.
Also the terms "nice" and "doormat" are not synonyms. |
For some reason, the term 'nice guy' has acquired this connotation of a pushover guy who can't attract women - perhaps because of the archetypal story of such a man. His female friends tell him "you really deserve a girlfriend, you're such a
nice guy", and he begins to believe that being nicer and nicer is the solution, rather than developing qualities that actually attract good potential lovers.
Generally though, I do agree with you Michelle - you can do kind things for people from a position of self-confidence and not from neediness, and thus be nice without being a doormat.