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brendannz · 10-27-2009, 10:56 AM

Do nice guys put up with way more than they should have to in a relationship?

OK, I can think of about 2 friends that have, wayy less than ideal girlfriends..

Like, one dude has this girlfriend who is quite fat, and really loud and rude. Like one time she said to me "Brendan you're not gonna piss me off all weekend are you?" in front of everyone for no reason, and I just said "Yes". She seems like her entire life motivation was just to complain as much as possible.

and another friend is married,

and he had a first kid with his wife, and then his wife got pregnant with another dude, they separated, but now they're getting back together so he can raise the kid who he isn't the biological father of..

The thing about these friends is they're both really nice guys, and it makes me wonder if nice guys don't set enough boundaries in their relationships and end up in bad situations because of it.

I know that these are only 2 people, and no relationship is perfect anyway, but what do you guys think about nice guys and relationships?

10-27-2009, 10:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
brendannz Family Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3,612	Do nice guys put up with more than they should? Do nice guys put up with way more than they should have to in a relationship? OK, I can think of about 2 friends that have, wayy less than ideal girlfriends.. Like, one dude has this girlfriend who is quite fat, and really loud and rude. Like one time she said to me "Brendan you're not gonna piss me off all weekend are you?" in front of everyone for no reason, and I just said "Yes". She seems like her entire life motivation was just to complain as much as possible. and another friend is married, and he had a first kid with his wife, and then his wife got pregnant with another dude, they separated, but now they're getting back together so he can raise the kid who he isn't the biological father of.. The thing about these friends is they're both really nice guys, and it makes me wonder if nice guys don't set enough boundaries in their relationships and end up in bad situations because of it. I know that these are only 2 people, and no relationship is perfect anyway, but what do you guys think about nice guys and relationships?