[bro2009]

Hello Everyone,

This is my first time posting here and I am really looking forward to taking part in the forums.
I have been having a lot of difficulty in some areas of my life, especially in regards to making good, solid friends..I just don't know how to do it. The thing is that I recently moved alone to a new city, where I don't know many people. It has been about 5 months now.

Where I lived before, I had my family, which includes my two brothers and my parents. Thus, I always had people around me. I also went to college there so I knew a few people. I'm a guy, gay and also not much of an outgoing person. But before, I didn't really feel the need to make close friends. I always had my brothers and the people I knew at college.

But things are different now. Now, here, I really feel the need to have some (at least one) close friends. Since I am actually alone now, I want to make friends and do stuff or I get super bored and somewhat depressed being stuck at home. Just hate having no one to talk to and I really hate doing things alone. But I just don't know how to do this. I don't go to school or anything and just have a part time job.

I have met some nice people through work and I also went to a few meetup group meetings (an online meetup kinda thing) to meet people. The problem I have is that, pretty much everyone I meet at these places are quite older than me. Of course, I love the company, but sometimes don't feel like I relate to them at all, they seem to be at different stages in their lives, obviously. On two separate occasions, I did get to know two people pretty well. They were both a bit older. However, both times, the friendships just disappeared. One of them just vanished off the face of the planet and the other just doesn't seem interested. Maybe I am too young/immature or something for them?? Then I thought I made a good friend with this other guy, but it seems he was only interested in me sexually. So after I said I wasn't interested, that didn't work out either.

I was wondering, if you guys had any ideas as to how I could get to know some people, preferably around my age (early 20s). I am not a party animal or anything, it's just so I will relate to someone for once. I just want one or two solid friends, people I can count on and talk to. I'm sick of these people that just abandon me after a while. Anyone else having similar problems?? I am not looking for sympathy or attention, just something practical. Do you guys have any suggestions?? Btw, sorry that was so long..and thank you for reading this far!