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Originally Posted by rhyaand  Is it really all ultimately about growth? Growth is wonderful, but growth for what purpose? My own dad left because he felt he couldn't grow anymore with my mom, they had different goals, etc. He is hasn't really grown much beyond where he was 32 years ago when he left. Self-absorbed and and unaware about a lot of things (even though he was the one that introduced me to self-help and personal development). There's a level of denial about the situation that he'll never be able to accept because of the lifetime of beliefs he has accumulated about the whys/hows of his divorce from my mom.
I guess the hard thing is to become aware of the things your mind wants to keep you unaware of (the mind has it's own reasons) but may not help the journey of your soul. Ultimately, any problem/difficulty in our close relationships is a hint about what we are denying or unaware of within ourselves. |
All you have is your perception, your story about your father. Even if he is your dad, you can't truly know if he's grown or not in the last 32 years because you're not him.
Likewise, I don't think anyone on this board knows what is best for Steve and Erin.