Personally, when it comes to sexual attraction I think that gender is similar to hair color, body type, etc. Some people are more attracted to women, while some people are more attracted to men, the same way some people are more attracted to red heads while others are more attracted to blondes. That isn't to say that someone who is more attracted to red heads could never be attracted to blondes, however. I think the same applies to gender, just because I am most attracted to women doesn't mean that I could never be attracted to a man. It hasn't happened yet, but I realize that it is possible.
The primary difference I see between gender and the other physical attributes that people are attracted to is the way society views them. Society doesn't treat hair color as a big deal, so most people don't see it as a big deal either. Gender, however, is a huge deal in society, so being attracted to the "wrong" gender is harder for some people to be willing to admit to. The same thing applied to race a few decades ago in the US (and still applies in some countries). To some extent, the same even applies to religion.
The point I am trying to make is that I feel that gender is unimportant when it comes to sexual attraction. Either you are attracted to a person or not, regardless of their gender. The fact that we label ourselves as "heterosexual", "homosexual", "bisexual", etc just seems to box us into thinking of attraction in terms of gender, rather than in terms of the individual.
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