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Originally Posted by amj  I'm speaking from my own experiences in my city, state, country.
We actually discussed this topic in one of my college classes a few years ago. Here is what the teacher told us:
Men treat sex as a fun activity ie shooting hoops
Women treat sex as a time for emotional bonding
Many men who cheat on their woman still have feelings for them and love them very much
Many women who cheat on their man no longer like/love their mate
For most men, sex and emotions do not go hand in hand
For a woman the opposite is true
I have spoken to many of my friends about this and we all feel the same way. Having sex with a woman you love is great but that doesn't stop the urge to have sex with other women. Women usually don't cheat unless they no longer care for their mate. Men usually cheat because having sex with other women is fun, not because they don't love their mate. I know many women don't want to hear this but it's true. Ask a man and he will agree with what I am saying. |
i think that is a mostly accurate assessment amj - but incomplete. some of the women who cheat, as i understand it, do still care for their mates. but they don't believe they deserve a problem-free or problem-lite romance. it's basically masochistic behavior. they only care for their mates as much as they care for themselves, which isn't a whole lot. they can grow and change and improve their self-esteem of course, but this is another reason for infidelity initiated by the female.
i find it interesting that a thread about gender misconceptions has been largely used to discuss cheating. i guess betrayal is incredibly unpleasant for both genders, though to intentionally generalize, i would guess many males are less willing to admit feeling hurt. (yeah i know, generalizations and stereotypes are not very kosher.)