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Originally Posted by shasah  Lucky you  I was married to one. Started out fine, but as time went on, it got old. Unfortunately for him, I started getting in touch with my emotions and wasn't able to maintain the status quo. So guys, while clingy is indeed unattractive, emotionally unavailable doesn't work either. I would hazard a guess that it works both ways, men don't find clingy women attractive, but would they really want one that is emotionally unavailable?? |
i think it probably does work both ways.
and really i think we attract those who are at a similar level of health (emotional/psychological health) as we are at a specific point in time. so it probably is not true that all or even most women don't want an emotionally unavailable man, because women who aren't as emotionally healthy would probably find comfort in a match like that. it seems that is somewhat how your own relationship started out, and once you took steps to greater emotional health your hubs was incredibly rattled. i'm single by choice right now, but if or when i end up in a serious relationship again, i hope it will be with someone who supports positive growth and is dedicated to growing himself.
actually, now that i think about it, i had a sort of something that became an unofficial relationship with an emotionally unavailable guy. (hope that sentence made sense!) but when we sat down to have 'the talk' (where is this going talk) it fizzled out. gotta give him credit though, he actually SAID he had a fear of commitment. i can't help but respect him for that.