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Originally Posted by Coffeesmurf  Just a thought: If you're attracted to men that aren't available to date you in the courting phase, maybe there's a link to them being emotionally unavailable in the later phases?  |
i said "constantly available" - a guy who is obviously available to date me because he is around and wants to talk any and every time i attempt contact and who attempts to contact me often.
women may think that is what we want, and in an established relationship it is important (for me) for a guy to be around, but in the very beginning stages this behavior, this being there every single time and calling or emailing several times a day is just clingy stuff. which is nonsense as a guy has not earned the right to be clingy at that point. and clingy is a turnoff at later stages as well, for me and probably many other females.
oh, i brought up the emotional unavailability for the potential benefit of other women because that is a fairly common complaint. i have not actually tried to have a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man. at least not a romantic relationship. for other kinds those guys work out well, no muss no fuss.