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I learned that I really enjoy relationships based on a deep emotional connection, openness, honesty, trust, compatible interests, and having fun together. I definitely want to have more of that in my life. But I found it very awkward to do this within the scope of my marriage. It was like trying to straddle two different worlds. An open marriage is practically a contradiction in terms. I found that I resonated more with the concept of openness than with the concept of marriage.
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I just wanted to comment on this part of the blog. For the rest, if 2 people decide that they are happier alone than together, it is better that they are alone.
Marriage is nothing more than a signature on a piece of paper. It does not make you do or feel anything. An open marriage is not a contradiction in terms, because marriage (just as any relationship) is what you make of it.
My marriage we promised eachother to make each other happy where we could, to take care of each other and to love each other. How does that not work with an open marriage? It is all in your own head.
If you find marriage hard to combine with openness towards other people because of social conventions... maybe you should be working on courage (you in a general sense, not you Steve).
My opinion on marriage... it is nothing except what you make of it.