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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  As far as marriage is concerned, I've only experienced one, so I only have that experience to go on. However, I wouldn't be too eager to get married again because it felt like marriage as a legal and social instrument often got in the way of building a truly conscious relationship.
Living consciously requires choice, and choice requires freedom. The institution of marriage restricts freedom a bit (partly legally and partly due to social convention), making free choices more difficult by introducing extra consequences.
But beyond the marriage issues, Erin and I also had compatibility problems that arose from living together. Some of those were present even before we got married (we lived together almost 4 years before we got married). So that's really a separate issue from the marriage itself. Otherwise we could have ended the marriage but continued living together. |
YES!!
I wrote a post that talked about marriage over a year ago (warning: there is a lot of strong language in this post). I still believe that marriage is incredibly limiting for anyone's other relationships, regardless of their gender or type of relationship. Sure, it's nice to have a ceremony, but is it all really necessary?
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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina There is definitely some sadness in this for both of us too, but on the flip side there's also a lot of joy and hope. These emotions come as a package deal.
I would much rather experience the sadness/joy package than the apathy/resentment/denial package.
In many ways it feels like a graduation. There's the bittersweet feeling of knowing you're moving on to something greater while also knowing that you're leaving something treasured behind you. |
I felt the same way when I got kicked out of college back in 2007 for having low grades and not enough money to continue. It was certainly a rough period of my life that, thankfully, I've documented in my blog as a reminder and to motivate me to move beyond that.
I'm going to go back to college next year, starting with community college to get my GPA back up. Then, I'll apply to a 4-year college and take advantage of their study abroad program to go to college in Japan just like I always wanted to. Ahh...
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Originally Posted by bunnyman Here's how I first found out:
At first I thought maybe Facebook was broken.  |
That's how I found out too (I also had the same reaction). Then right under that, I saw Steve's update for this post. After reading it, I think that Steve, Erin, and the kids will be alright!