Steve, I went through this almost exact same process about a year ago. We are also newly poly and have a child together and we were a "couple" for 13 years. What we found is that the culture definition of marriage was soooo wrong for us and as much as we tried to redefine it for ourselves we still felt confined in that box. We found that becoming un-married freed us immensely from that box. But, word of warning, we very quickly found ourselves living in a "separated/divorced" box. I know you are both very conscious people, just wanted to give a heads up on that.
We really had to do some work to not let "society" define our relationship, married, divorced, separated, good friends, and to define it ourselves. The closest definition you can give it today is an "open relationship". I love that definition because it has no boundaries, it isn't a box of any sort. We are still able to maintain that intimacy and connection, but not because we're "supposed" to, but because we want to and the timing and energies are there. And when it's not, there is no guilt.
Anyway, enough about me. High fives to both of you for having the courage to be truthful and honest about your relationship and each other.
Peace,
Ryan
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