As far as marriage is concerned, I've only experienced one, so I only have that experience to go on. However, I wouldn't be too eager to get married again because it felt like marriage as a legal and social instrument often got in the way of building a truly conscious relationship.
Living consciously requires choice, and choice requires freedom. The institution of marriage restricts freedom a bit (partly legally and partly due to social convention), making free choices more difficult by introducing extra consequences.
But beyond the marriage issues, Erin and I also had compatibility problems that arose from living together. Some of those were present even before we got married (we lived together almost 4 years before we got married). So that's really a separate issue from the marriage itself. Otherwise we could have ended the marriage but continued living together.
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