This wasn't really a sudden decision, but we did come from a place of heightened clarity this time. When I wrote that I couldn't predict we'd be here only 3 weeks after the workshop, it was mainly the timing that was a surprise, not so much the end result. In truth Erin and I have been through a few other near-separation cycles over the past several years, always for the same reason of our problematic long-term compatibility outlook, but this cycle finally pushed us over the edge, partly because we both had much stronger clarity about what we each wanted.
So although this may seem like it was an impulsive decision, it's just the opposite of that. It actually took years for us to reach this point. We wouldn't make a decision like this impulsively.
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