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cylon · 10-25-2009, 09:05 PM

When there is an attractive girl, you can be positive there is an unattractive best friend nearby. They tend to go in pairs.

This happened to me a fairly recently, I was talking to a cute girl, and trying to include her un-cute best friend in the conversation so no one would feel excluded. The unattractive girl was just totally rude and abrasive to me. Probably just jealous that yet again her pretty friend is getting more attention than her. While I was trying to have a civil conversation with the cute girl, her "friend" kept giving her dirty looks like "oh my gawd, this is so stupid". Pretty common c-block.

I also think some girls like having a more unattractive friend, it makes them look even prettier by comparison, (they don't want to have to compete with their friends) and they can sort of be used as body-guards and c-blockers in the way a male friend would. It's all about security. Think about if you have any guy friends who have (or hopefully, used to have--cut these guys out of your life) low-self esteem. Are they more likely to encourage you to talk to a cute girl, or are they more likely to point out all the things that could go wrong?

Just have to get used to it, whether a girl is out just to have girl-talk or she's open to meeting a man, as a man you just assume the latter and be the assertive one if you are interested in someone. I don't care what their original motivation is, if a girl is out in public and is in a social setting, she is not going to be against the idea of some good looking guy checking her out. The only exception would be if she were in sweatpants, a baggy t-shirt, no makeup, and wearing a baseball cap. If she's not dressed that way, she wants to look good.

But bottom line, if a girl really is interested, she'll let you isolate her from her grumpy, "I hate my life" friends.

10-25-2009, 09:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	When there is an attractive girl, you can be positive there is an unattractive best friend nearby. They tend to go in pairs. This happened to me a fairly recently, I was talking to a cute girl, and trying to include her un-cute best friend in the conversation so no one would feel excluded. The unattractive girl was just totally rude and abrasive to me. Probably just jealous that yet again her pretty friend is getting more attention than her. While I was trying to have a civil conversation with the cute girl, her "friend" kept giving her dirty looks like "oh my gawd, this is so stupid". Pretty common c-block. I also think some girls like having a more unattractive friend, it makes them look even prettier by comparison, (they don't want to have to compete with their friends) and they can sort of be used as body-guards and c-blockers in the way a male friend would. It's all about security. Think about if you have any guy friends who have (or hopefully, used to have--cut these guys out of your life) low-self esteem. Are they more likely to encourage you to talk to a cute girl, or are they more likely to point out all the things that could go wrong? Just have to get used to it, whether a girl is out just to have girl-talk or she's open to meeting a man, as a man you just assume the latter and be the assertive one if you are interested in someone. I don't care what their original motivation is, if a girl is out in public and is in a social setting, she is not going to be against the idea of some good looking guy checking her out. The only exception would be if she were in sweatpants, a baggy t-shirt, no makeup, and wearing a baseball cap. If she's not dressed that way, she wants to look good. But bottom line, if a girl really is interested, she'll let you isolate her from her grumpy, "I hate my life" friends. Last edited by cylon; 10-25-2009 at 09:14 PM.