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marinik · 10-25-2009, 07:29 AM

In my experience women are "wrapped" in so many layers of conditioning and roles that they rarely admit what their true desires are. In growing up they are given so many messages of what is right for a "good girl"... a "true woman" good wife.. mother..and so on. On the other hand boys are given the "other" kind of messages which makes them "real men", so YES the biggest problems for women to communicate what do they want in sex (except oxytocinOxytocin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

) would be all that we are considered sluts if we do express our desires.

And it is not just that we would like to try different things and different partners. It is the fact that if there is no communication and no imagination a sexual relationship becomes stale and boring. Also you have the very common scenario where one of the partner lets themselves go and becomes fat or does not take care of appearances and sometimes even hygiene.

The most interesting thing is that (in my experience) even when the roles in a relationship seem to be equal in all aspects after a very steamy sexual encounter the man would often joke of being sexually used and brought on the verge of exhaustion by the women. Even when it is so obvious he had a "great time"

and it was all on his initiative. The subtle messages are always there.

10-25-2009, 07:29 AM	#22 (permalink)
marinik Legendary Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Where Living and Loving and Laughing are written into the Constitution Posts: 14,240	In my experience women are "wrapped" in so many layers of conditioning and roles that they rarely admit what their true desires are. In growing up they are given so many messages of what is right for a "good girl"... a "true woman" good wife.. mother..and so on. On the other hand boys are given the "other" kind of messages which makes them "real men", so YES the biggest problems for women to communicate what do they want in sex (except oxytocinOxytocin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ) would be all that we are considered sluts if we do express our desires. And it is not just that we would like to try different things and different partners. It is the fact that if there is no communication and no imagination a sexual relationship becomes stale and boring. Also you have the very common scenario where one of the partner lets themselves go and becomes fat or does not take care of appearances and sometimes even hygiene. The most interesting thing is that (in my experience) even when the roles in a relationship seem to be equal in all aspects after a very steamy sexual encounter the man would often joke of being sexually used and brought on the verge of exhaustion by the women. Even when it is so obvious he had a "great time" and it was all on his initiative. The subtle messages are always there.