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Originally Posted by spirit4711  Such as? |
do you mean the benefits of civilization or monogamy? It seems rather self explanatory to me but I can see where others would disagree. I mean, some people would rather live in a primitive war tribe, deep down. They'd feel more "alive" that way. More power to them, but it's not for me. Similarly, I don't want to burn my life's energy cycling through a bunch of mates, spreading myself thin, never truly giving my whole self emotionally to anybody.
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I've met a lot more men who want to screw around than women. Is your experience different?
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i think it depends whether you look at it from a macro or micro level. We tend to see the micro more because it's closer to us. Men want sexual variety, and thus are more liable to stray in the short term. Women usually pair bond with men sexually for longer periods, so on first glance they appear more monogamous. That said, it's balanced out long term, as men seem more capable of emotionally bonding with one woman for life. Women will pair bond with one guy for a while, and then look for a new guy to pair bond with. Their bonding period can last years (theoretically the time needed to raise a child, I suppose), so to onlookers they might seem more monogamous, but looking at the bigger picture where men bond for life, it becomes less the case. The best evidence I have for this is that most divorces are initiated by the woman, and divorce is a huge reason the suicide rate for middle aged men is disproportionately higher compared to women of the same age.
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That's not my assumption. But it might be true that monogamy is desirable for both men AND women because of insecurity issues.
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this might be true, but I don't see it as a bad thing. If you have a secure monogamous relationship, you can be free to focus your energies towards other areas relating to your true purpose in life. Not everybody is designed to do alright with polyamory.