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Originally Posted by loveliketheflowers  I go to school full time and work also, and they still want to have me on a curfew or home at a certain time. And if I am ten minutes late from when I said I would be home they give me an attitude or give me the silent treatment and don't talk to me at all for a few days and there is a lot of tension in the house.
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The only thing holding me back is my grandparents and having their approval and I don't want to be yelled at or not have their support. |
Guess what? You don't have their approval or support right now.
Right now, you only get their approval by struggling to meet their every little expectation--by being "perfect." But you're human, and can't be "perfect" all the time, and the second you're not? They withdraw their support. It's called manipulation, no matter how well-intentioned they may be.
You don't have their approval. It might seem like you do as long as you follow their rules, but it's conditional--the second you make a mistake, or try to push beyond their rules, it's gone.
Move. Get out now. You're miserable where you are, you can afford to do it, and at 24 it's high time you lived on your own.
And yes, your grandparents will be angry; they will judge you and yell at you, and no doubt express their disapproval in other hurtful ways. They will probably say horrible things to you--call you ungrateful, tell you you're doomed to fail, etc. No matter how much they might love you, they are also manipulative and controlling, and they are not going to respond well to losing control over you.
But for your sake--not just now, in your relationship with them, but also in the future, in relationships with other people--you need to learn to act in your own interest, despite the guilt trips and power plays. You need to learn to deal with their disapproval, and let them be as angry as they want without it affecting you. You have to stop taking on the burden of responsibility for their anger--you are not responsible for how they feel or how they choose to act.
Because if you don't learn this now? In the future, you'll meet somebody else who will do the same sorts of things. Maybe it will be a boss, maybe it will be a co-worker, maybe it will be a boyfriend. They will make their crappy behavior your fault, if you let them. If you don't learn how to deal with your grandparents' manipulative, controlling behavior now, you'll get stuck having to learn it from someone else, in the future.
So yes, definitely move out. But while moving out will solve some of your problems, it won't solve all of them. You need to leave behind your need for your grandparents' approval, and your willingness to jump through any hoops to get it.