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Originally Posted by aggie 
i too, think it is difficult at first for some men to initially not look at a woman friend as a sexual being... to be able to appreciate that fact and take it no further and just be friends may or may not be all that easy. i am sure it can be a problem for women as well.
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With me, it's either there or it's not.
What I mean by that is that if I have sexual attraction to a woman, then it's a pretty good bet that I'll never want to be JUST her friend, so I tend to remove myself from situations where I'm attracted to a girl, want more from her, but she doesn't want more from me. Those relationships are far too draining for me and I've learned that the best thing is to just avoid them.
On the other hand, there are women I have no sexual attraction too, and, in those cases, I'm open to pursuing friendship with her so long as she doesn't have feelings for me.