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aggie · 10-22-2009, 12:10 AM

i think there are lot of different reasons and angles to this.

while i was married the first time and then single a couple of my best friends were male.

i tended to prefer the company of the men where i worked because they just didn't get all worked up over little things, they were more easy going and funnier.

i have always gotten along well with both sexes and enjoyed their company. i really do think as true confidants opposite sexes can be both a better listener and more objective in their advice.

i too, think it is difficult at first for some men to initially not look at a woman friend as a sexual being... to be able to appreciate that fact and take it no further and just be friends may or may not be all that easy. i am sure it can be a problem for women as well.

my husband and i have a dear woman friend who actually became his friend first and they have socialized without me. i guess you just know who can really be in that situation where there is no need for concern or suspicion.

10-22-2009, 12:10 AM	#7 (permalink)
aggie Family Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,235	i think there are lot of different reasons and angles to this. while i was married the first time and then single a couple of my best friends were male. i tended to prefer the company of the men where i worked because they just didn't get all worked up over little things, they were more easy going and funnier. i have always gotten along well with both sexes and enjoyed their company. i really do think as true confidants opposite sexes can be both a better listener and more objective in their advice. i too, think it is difficult at first for some men to initially not look at a woman friend as a sexual being... to be able to appreciate that fact and take it no further and just be friends may or may not be all that easy. i am sure it can be a problem for women as well. my husband and i have a dear woman friend who actually became his friend first and they have socialized without me. i guess you just know who can really be in that situation where there is no need for concern or suspicion.