No my social skills are not lousy but I've never been an initiator in friendships my friends always found ME THEY initiated the friendship THEY did the initial follow up. I never learned how, never HAD to. Now, I do, I've been in another country for a while, happily married but want female friends ESPECIALLY those who are positive etc! So I'm working on it AND I asked an acquaintance from a group I go to if we can exchange numbers & have coffee together even though I thought oh she's SO popular etc. but she agreed!
Now, my question IS how soon & often to call?
We exchanged numbers weekend before last & I DO have plans a few times this month MIGHT also be seeing her in the group in 2 weeks' time. She has my number too. So I'm thinking 3 weeks from the time of exchange? To call her & suggest a meeting day etc for coffee. And how often to call? A friend of mine who IS an initiator calls me every one to two months I'm thinking of following her lead.
I KNOW this is a weird question but I've never needed to know the answer before plus sometimes I got rid of toxic friends but found no replacements for ages now I'm meeting great people & trying to learn how to take it to the next level - turn acquaintances into friends.
I also got an email address from another girl.
AND I am meeting people over the next three weeks at a couple of different meetup groups but how soon to ask for numbers for coffee? The girl I exchanged numbers with runs a group & I've been going for three years!!! I am organising one of the upcoming meetings myself & I'm hoping that might make it easier - or not?!
Any tips REALLY appreciated!!