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Old 10-21-2009, 08:24 PM   #8 (permalink)
Cheshire Cat
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Hi,
To me, love may be selfless but it also is not self-sacrifice. Your happiness is as important as your husband's, but successful relationships do require a bit of cooperation and compromise. Do what feels right for you with consideration to your family as well.

I didn't want to feel like I'd just end up being a nurse-maid to my ex-bf too, but he couldn't show me otherwise that he could be an equal and responsible partner so I broke it off before things could get worse.

When you live with someone daily, I think it's easy to take each other for granted and not be as polite as you would be to a stranger. Familiar/intimate co-habitation settings don't obligate you to continue to make yourself look 'good' in front of the other person because you've already seen each other's dirty laundry, so to speak.
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