thanks Lioness!
all of those ideas sound helpful, especially the second one. it's amazingly simple, i don't know how i missed it - if the clothing seems significant enough for me to frame it as symbolic, then obviously (in hindsight at least
) shifting my wardrobe can symbolize a shift to a more productive attitude! thanks for helping me see that
also, there is a local UU church i've thought of attending. now i have one more reason to check it out.