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Originally Posted by DazednConfused  ... she didn't trust guys due to a previous experience. She also thought that I didn't really like her and categorized me with other guys saying "Plenty of guys have told me that they liked me, but none have ever meant it." |
Sounds to me like she is being run by the gremlin of an old limiting decision. That gremlin has her trying to prove the belief she has isn't true, and at the same time trying to avoid other people finding out it IS true. There is no way to convince someone that their gremlin isn't true -- it's like trying to fill a bottomless pit. (I'm guessing her belief is something like "I'm unlovable.")
Now, you're trying to convince her that you're different, that you really DO mean it, plays right into her unconscious game -- her gremlin thrives on guys doing that; it's wonderful food that keeps the belief alive. You are exactly like all those other guys in that by trying to *fight* the gremlin on your own terms, you unwittingly keep it alive and happy.
If I were you, I'd ask myself what my own belief about myself is, the belief that is complementary to hers and has drawn you in. Dismantle that belief, and you'll have all kinds of freedom and choice with this woman, and with every other woman. Until you examine your own beliefs, you'll almost certainly keep repeating this pattern over and over again, wondering "what is it with all these unavailable women?!?"
