Here's my interpretation of this.
She was flirting with you because she liked you. Things were good. She probably didn't think it would end and didn't think you'd get hurt.
When you told her how you felt, it kinda ruined it. I'm not saying you shouldn't express your emotions. I'm saying that in my opinion it would have been more effective to show her how you felt by starting to treat her like you would if she were your girlfriend. If she was uncomfortable with it, make her bring it up. You were obviously comfortable with dating her.
I'm assuming that you guys don't have easy access based on your post (i.e. she's not your next door neighbor). If this is the case, then nothing's going to happen anyway until you guys are around each other reliably.
To answer the question you asked, yes, I believe that now you are in the friend zone. However, I don't think that getting out of the friend zone will have anything to do with her ex. In order for you to get out of the friend zone, you're going to have to move on. You're going to have to live your life to the fullest. Go date some other girls. Go follow you passions. Go have fun.
You're going to have to let her come back to you. When she reopens communication, she's interested. At that point, you'll be having so much fun that she'll be attracted again and it's all good. And if she doesn't, then you are having so much fun that it doesn't matter.
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