Wow, you learn something new every day, and today has been especially rewarding so far.
That said, I agree with what many posters before me said.
I also can understand when people decide to wait until marriage before having sex (preferably together). However, there are upsides and downsides to it.
On the upside, it certainly has a deep emotional effect to have your first sex with the one person you think you will be sharing the rest of your life with (on the other hand, isn't that always the case when we fall in love?). It also cuts down on the risk of accidental pregnancy, catching any kind of disease transferred through intercourse that an unknown sex partner might have, and so on.
On the downside, you may find that you're either bound for a hellish time on Earth when you find out you really don't meet each other's preferences in the bed - or a very swift divorce, which kind of makes the whole concept absurd.
So, getting to know your future "love of your life" for a longer time, including being intimate, can cut down on the surprises further down the road. To say this makes it "important to have sex...before you marry them" remains debatable. But I would personally prefer it to walking into a long-term relationship half-blind.
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