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Originally Posted by Cyllya  What's depressing is that men and women are a lot more similar than a lot of people think. Just trying to put yourself in the other person's shoes could go a long way toward understanding him/her, but people think, "I can't put myself in this person's shoes because we aren't the same sex." |
When it comes to sexual attraction, this simply isn't true.
Proof of this: these guys buying drinks/dinners etc are doing exactly that, and failing.
The basis of this frustration/misogyny is this: jerks get more attention from girls than 'nice guys'. (please read on) This is frustrating to the 'nice guys' for obvious reasons. They cannot accept that someone who probably respects women a lot less than they do is getting so much more success. They then come to the conclusion that 'women are dumb, they like guys who don't respect them, and they don't like me even though I'm the nicest guy ever'.
What they don't realize is what the 'jerks' have that they don't.
It's not a very big secret, it's confidence. Being 'too nice' with someone reeks of insecurity. It looks like that person feels he cannot be liked by being himself, so he needs to go over bounds to be nice.
The answer isn't for them to become a**holes, it's to gain some self-esteem. This is a vicious circle however, as every rejection lowers their confidence and self-esteem.