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Originally Posted by ssandra  If a couple gets married and one of them dies as the childs is being born.. do we say that person will do a worse job raising the child? No, we applaud them for moving on and doing a good job. |
Part of the reason why we applaud them is because we KNOW it's usually a lot more difficult to raise a child alone than it is as part of a couple.
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Originally Posted by ssandra For me, deciding to have a child alone is in the same category. |
It's not the same category at all. The former did NOT involve a conscious choice. The latter did indeed involve a conscious choice. When we bring another human being into the world, we should make every effort to give them the best start in life. Having 2 parents who care about and are active in the care of the child is best. The best scenario for that happening is in a committed, married relationship.
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Originally Posted by ssandra I would actually argue that children of a parent who decides to do this alone are better off because this parent has thought about it a lot more, and it is a conscious decision. |
I think you're rationalizing here. It takes two parents to make a child. It should take two to raise them. Sure, extended family and commuity also play a role. But it starts with the 2 parents who made the child. It's really not rocket science.